Number 10 Learn the secret language of manhood
When you become a real man -- an independent, strong man who is on his own path -- you’ll begin to communicate differently: You’ll move differently, you’ll hold yourself differently, you’ll respond to situations differently, and you’ll use different words. It’s easy to spot guys who don’t get it or are trying to fake it, but it’s just as easy to spot the guys who do get it. Just like guitar players know whether someone is a great musician or an amateur within the first few notes, women know if you’re a real man in a matter of seconds. This is why it’s so important to work on yourself, your self-image and your “Inner Game” until you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you’re a real man. When you do, you’ll attract women fast and naturally.
Number 9 Make “certainty” part of who you are
People like certainty. If you can provide it and communicate it, you’ll be more attractive. If you can’t, it’s game over. If women think that you’re secretly a wuss bag -- that you’re only acting cool, but underneath you’re a clingy, insecure guy just waiting to smother them -- they’re going to bail. But if you can communicate a strong, stable, secure, and masculine maturity, women will be less likely to flake out on you because they have more certainty about you. Learn to communicate certainty in everything you do and you’ll attract women fast.
Number 8 Certainty versus teasing
I often tell guys to find fun, playful ways to indirectly answer the questions women ask. This includes the typical questions like what you do for a living and where do you live. So, you might ask, “How can I create certainty in women if you’re telling me to keep them uncertain about these things?” My answer is simple: They want certainty that their experience with you is going to be fun, not certainty about the details of your life. Keep this distinction in mind when you’re flirting -- you’ll tease women and give them a sense of certainty at the same time.
Number 7 The more personal, the more universal
My mentor, Gary Ballinger, taught me something that he learned from his mentor: that the more personal something is to you, the more universal it probably is. Realize that each of your insecurities is actually quite common, then stop hiding them -- be transparent. This can be very liberating. When a woman interacts with a man who isn’t hung up about his ”hang-ups,” not only does it help her relax, it also communicates to her that she’s dealing with a real man who is comfortable with who he is. And this is precisely the kind of man that women are naturally attracted to.
Number 6 Stop reliving your emotional past
It’s a fact; we humans remember things that happened in the presence of emotion. And we often respond to our emotional imprints of situations from the past, rather than to the actual event taking place in front of us -- right now. So, you got dumped three years ago, and now a woman does something that reminds you of your ex and you start freaking out about it. Becoming a man is about breaking those connections, living in the present and taking each new situation for what it’s worth in today’s terms. Women dig guys who can break through the emotional baggage of their past and live in the “now."
Number 5 Figure out where your power comes from
Have you ever asked yourself where your own personal power is based? Take a sec and ask yourself: Is your competition with other men based in a powerful, masculine and secure maturity? Or is it based in a weak, insecure and over-compensating immaturity? Do you respect mature men and treat them as worthy allies (or adversaries) or do you secretly harbor thoughts of superiority? Is your ability to persuade based on whining, tyranny and tantrums? Or is it based on credibility, authenticity and wisdom? Take a few minutes and figure out if your personal power is rooted in scarcity or abundance, then practice living your life from a place of mature, masculine power. This is great for your life, plus you get the added bonus of attracting women fast.
Number 4 Realize success won’t solve your problems
Most immature guys think that money, power and success with women will solve all their problems and make them happy. How great would that be, eh? Unfortunately, it’s simply not true. Often, the things we think would make us happy create new problems of their own once they’re achieved. A mature man understands that he is responsible for his own results. He doesn’t get jealous when others succeed or angry when a successful person complains, and he doesn’t live in a fantasy world thinking that if he had success in a particular area of his life (for example, women and dating) that all of his other problems would be magically solved. Understanding this is an important step in growing up and becoming the type of mature, grounded guy women find irresistibly attractive.
Number 3 A mature man plans ahead
Aristotle said that a sign of a mature man is forethought. Part of maturity is having the ability to think future events all the way through with discipline, instead of guessing, wishing and leaving things to luck. When you’ve thought scenarios through, you can move forward with strength and confidence, knowing that you’ve planned for most of what could happen, and the odds are on your side. By doing this, it frees your mind to deal with the exceptions as they arise. With women, a mature man has thought through all the possible situations and scenarios, and has planned accordingly. The immature, Boy-Man thinks that he has done the same, only it’s not the same at all.
Number 2 How to know when you’re manipulating
The Boy-Man uses tricks and techniques to manipulate, and only lives for instant gratification in the moment. Here’s a test that you can apply to see if you’re being a manipulative Boy-Man: Ask yourself if what you’re doing feels manipulative, sneaky or dishonest in any way. If it does, then you’re allowing the Boy-Man inside of you run things, which will ultimately lead you to a feeling of less fulfillment, not more. If the feeling inside of you is one of strength, authenticity and desire to want to add to your woman’s life experience and joy, then you’re on the right track.
Number 1 Commit to becoming a naturally attractive guy
The most important thing you can do right now to attract women fast is to commit to doing whatever it takes to become the kind of guy who naturally attracts women. That you’ll take the time to learn from guys who are great with women, iron out the “quirks” in your personality, and continue moving forward until you reach your goals. The best thing about this is that you don’t have to wait until you’ve arrived to get rewarded -- every step you take to improve yourself is going to feel great.